Explosive? Implosive? Learn Anger Control Now
Think hidden anger is not dangerous? In the 2003 movie “Anger Management,” Adam Sandler plays a business man who seemed to accept every frustration and anger he gets from the external world. Dave Buznik (Sandler's character) decided to repress all his emotions when a bully from his childhood days pulled down his pants as he was about to kiss a girl whom he liked. Years later, Buznik is now a secretary of a boss who takes all the credit for his work. He is even okay with Andrew, his rival, hanging around with his girlfriend, Linda. He looked so passive with all the disappointing and annoying situations in his life until a flight for a business meeting changed his life and the way he handles emotions.
The movie may show the activity of anger control in a little slapstick way, but in real life, not everything looks funny. To learn how to manage anger, it is necessary to find out what kind of anger a person has. Explosive anger is something ubiquitous. As Buddy Rydell (Jack Nicholson) put it, “Explosive [anger], which is the most common, is the type of individual you see screaming at a grocery store cashier for not taking his coupon.
The other kind of anger is implosive anger. In this case, it is anger that is hidden deep inside the individual for years and when it gets filled up to the brim, the person suddenly destroys everything in his path like a devastating tsunami. In the scenario of the grocery store, it is seen in “the cashier at the store who remains quiet at his job day after day until he then finally loses it and just shoots everyone in the store,” as described by the character Rydell.
For the explosive, remembering to breathe deeply for a few seconds will help in calming his nerves. Counting to ten will also give him a moment to assess the situation. Anger quotations can also help an explosive person by reminding him of the dangers of anger. This one is by Sun Tzu, the author of the Art of War: “Anger may in time change to gladness; vexation may be succeeded by content. But a kingdom that has once been destroyed can never come back again into being, nor can the dead ever be brought back to life.”
For the implosive, playing anger management games is a method he can use, as suggested by the website AngerSpot.com. When performing a role play however, remember to use protective gear just in case the implosive person results to physical release of anger such as punching and kicking. Writing in a diary every day, drawing or painting can also help a person release pent-up anger. Anger is something that can cause bad effects to a person when kept hidden. Anger quotations can help too. This is from Siddharta Gautama, who is more known as Buddha: “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
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